Sex Tips : Another reason life is unfair - loss of sex drive
Time was when it didn't take much at all to kick your sexual response into overdrive. A music video, a scent, the mere pronouncement of particular words or the relative proximity of that one hottie at the coffee shop got the fantasies and the juices flowing, fast and furious. Or maybe your best urge ever was about one special person who could do it for you with a glance or a sigh or one almost-kiss, or a relationship with someone you could hardly look at without seeing them naked. Hell yeah, sometimes that hyper-libido led to frustration, but on the other hand, drive like that makes you feel exquisitely alive.
So what's up with the times when you just feel... well.. dead in that department? No response to things that used to drive you wild, a serious decline in the once-constant thoughts of sex, taking a pass on the new swimsuit issue of SI, even a flat-liner reaction to the flirtation of the hot co-worker or the wait staff at the ribs joint -- what's up with that? Even worse, what's going on when you'd rather do the crossword in bed or watch "Cops" than heed the advances of your partner?
Good news about all this is, you've got lots of company. Almost all men and women suffer from decline or loss of sex drive at various times, and in all likelihood there is nothing wrong with you. But the bad news is also that you've got company -- that is, your partner, spouse or the willing flirt, but this time the spirit ain't willing and neither is the flesh. It's positively cruel if once you have a partner and sex is available, you're not into it.
What's going on? Well, ordinary loss of libido is attributable to a number of causes:
Fatigue: Men and women both get overwhelmed by responsibility and daily tasks like work, household chores, childrearing, community obligations and other family commitments. In short, you're worn out at the end of the day and all your energy has been spent, so when you get horizontal your only thoughts are of sleep, not sex. Remedy: Morning sex! There are times when you can't reduce your daily workload, but you can start the day off right with couples' intimacy or single's self-satisfaction. Bonus -- men often have their hardest erections in the morning.
Stress: Turn up the heat on your ordinary daily tasks by adding deadlines, bad news,
worries, competition at work, failures, additional assignments, arguments or unpleasant
surprises, and you get STRESS. The high-stress body is chemically and physically challenged
to cope, and your sex life is often undermined by the ways stress saps your energy and http://www.vigrx.com/clicks/clickthrough.html?a=ist003" onmouseover="window.status='http://www.VigRX.com';return true" onmouseout="window.status='';return true"> http://www.istnewsletter.com/images/icons/vigrx50x50.gif" alt="Click Here for more information about VigRX" align="right" border="0" height="50" width="50"> clutters your mind. Remedy: Sex itself! Sex is a great stress reliever, BUT -- stress
derails sex. Sounds like a Catch-22, right? That's why adding a little something to
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"doesn't feel like it" at the start, but really wants to get into the mood (it's good for
her AND for you).
Depression: Seasonal depression (winter blues) and situational depression (reacting to
temporary sad/stressful circumstances) cause loss of interest in sex. Unfortunately,
prescription antidepressants are famous for messing with your sex life by interfering
with sex drive, the function of erectile tissue, and the ability to orgasm. Remedy:
a nutritionally balanced diet, including natural supplements that may promote sexual
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. These products contain the same herbal ingredients that have been used for
centuries in different cultures to help support and maintain sexual activity levels.
Studies also prove that exercise, even as little as 20 to 30 minutes a day of brisk
walking, helps positively impact your brain chemistry and make you feel better. If
you suspect clinical depression or have long-term depression, see your doctor.
Nutrition: A poor-quality diet based mostly on junk or not-so-great-for-you foods will impact your overall health and your sexual health. Likewise, overindulging in alcohol can cause not just temporary problems (alcohol-related impotence) but chronic overuse of alcohol can seriously impact sexual function and enjoyment. Many studies suggest that smoking impairs sexual sensitivity and undermines fertility. Remedy: Clean up your act, and make your body more of a temple. Bonus -- You'll look better, too, which not only gets a better reaction from your mate, but also makes you feel sexier.
Boredom / taking your partner for granted: Sadly, things can get stale after a while, or sometimes when the thrill of the chase is gone, the thrill of the sex is gone, too. Remedy: change your attitude! Read more about this in the article in this issue about http://www.istnewsletter.com/ist_vol1_issue03.html#3">Overcoming Sexual Boredom.
Finally, know that the fact that you're reading this newsletter is very positive -- it means you are definitely sexually alive, and you want to get to the level of HOT where you will enjoy yourself the most.
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